Isn’t it strange how we spend so much of our day avoiding people?
We call people, who are two desks away from us.
We message our loved ones, instead of answering their calls.
We squirm, to get away from strangers on public transport.
Yet we need touch so much. I got a massage over the weekend that was without a doubt one of the best I have had! It wasn’t relaxing by any means, this guy (named Paul) had me writhing in pain as he dug right into my leg muscles and realigned my body once again. But it got me thinking about how lucky I was that one of my great friends, when my anxiety was at its peak, was training to be a masseuse!
She needed to get her practice hours up, and so she provided a discount ‘come to you’ service. It was truly magical that it turned out to be one of the things that got me on the road to recovery – and I didn’t even realise it at the time! It was something I learnt much later.
As humans we crave physical touch, whether that be a kiss, a hug, sex, or anything in between! Even the touch of someone’s arm, when asking ‘how are you?’ is worth more than you’ll ever know. Through touch we feel reassured; this reduces our pulse; which reduces our blood pressure; which puts less stress on your heart and your cortisol levels!
Connection with our fellow chums, even if it’s a brief chat with a friendly person as you wait for the green man at the pedestrian crossing, is a necessity for our mental health. But I realise for somebody who isn’t much into leaving the house, this can prove to be a difficult task. I also realise that introverts aren’t into being touched, being one myself. If this is the case for you, I encourage you to get out there and just get a manicure or pedicure (which always comes with a quick hand or foot massage) or get a massage from a masseuse (even if it’s just a 20 minute shoulder & neck!). These sorts of connections will save you from having to have a conversation which would leave you with sweaty pits, and instead you’ll leave feeling refreshed and connected.
It’s up to you – pick your poison! But I guarantee that if you find a way to feel connected each day (some days even a FaceTime with my parents, sister or fiancé is just the ticket) your brain & nervous system will thank you for it!
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